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Shaking off the SHOULDS

It’s 3:30pm and I just sat down to eat lunch. A salad. Because I am trying to do better. Trying to “get back on track.” And I SHOULD be drinking a huge cup of water but instead my salad is paired with a huge Bojangles sweet tea that I stopped to grab on my way home from the grocery store.

It’s 4:30ish and the baby is napping. I SHOULD be doing laundry, mopping the floors, or cleaning the bathroom. But instead I am dreaming up blog posts, scrolling Instagram, and listening to a podcast.

How many times have you heard or used the word SHOULD today? My house SHOULD look like this or that. My child SHOULD be sleeping through the night. Or even I SHOULD NOT feel this way. I SHOULDN'T eat this entire pint of ice cream, but I probably will.

My point is these “SHOULDS” and “SHOULDN’TS” we tell ourselves or hear from other mamas are not motivating or inspiring positivity instead they are breeding negativity and typically leave us feeling less than we deserve.

We have been doing this throughout every stage of our life so no wonder we are doing it in motherhood. So, what if we changed our language to change our attitude? Get rid of the mother we think we “should be” and instead be the mother that we ARE. Motherhood is hard enough without the added pressure of SHOULDS.

So, let’s stop shoulding all over ourselves and instead use words that inspire action and change. “I WILL go to Stroller Strides!” Or “ I CHOOSE to feed my child ANY way I can.” If we all start using positive words in our conversations with each other I truly believe that we will begin to feel much lighter and happier, just by shaking off the SHOULDS. Not only are we not shoulding all over ourselves but we also aren’t adding to another mamas SHOULDS unintentionally.

So, what do say mama? Are you ready to be the mama you want to be? Follow the link below to join in OUR VILLAGE Facebook group to continue the conversation on how you can be an empowered mama!

Janie Johnson